I know a lot of you out there have the greatest husband in the world… so do I.
Let me introduce you to my man, Ryan.
Mostly, you all read about me or things from my perspective. This will still be from my perspective, but whatever…
Let me just keep it to five things I love/cherish/respect/admire/etc/etc about Ryan. Otherwise, this would take all day. And please know my lame attempt at putting down my feelings on this matter will not do it justice. I must try, though!
1. His love for the Lord.
I mean, maybe that’s an “obvious” or widely used phrase for ladies when speaking of their husbands, but ehhh… it’s so true of Ryan! This was the first thing that drew me to him (his stinkin’ good looks didn’t have a thing to do with it). As we got to know each other through our phone conversations, I remember being impressed (and rather intimidated!) by the way he disciplined himself to become more like Christ. He didn’t even become a Christ follower until he was 25 (now almost 31…), and he was blowing me away with his knowledge and passion for God’s word.
2. The way he pursued me (and still does pursue me!).
When we met at camp, I had previously made a promise to God and myself to not pursue any more guys… it is meant to be the other way around. I knew I had to let my future husband completely pursue me. After Ryan got my number the last night of camp, he called me every single day (I think there was one day where he didn’t call, but I didn’t freak out or anything…) after that. He would remind me, “you know, you can call me too”. I told him I knew that, but I don’t think I ever called him first until he made his first visit to see me. It was still sparingly until after we were officially together.
He sent me flowers. He sent me at least a card a week (still have them all!). On the envelopes of the cards he would write, “My Dearest Brianna Barger” or “The Future Mrs. Brianna Tenges” (after we were engaged, of course!). My roommates delivered my gifts from him with some gagging, but they were actually happy for me (right?). He never made me question our relationship. Ever. When he came to visit, he wouldn’t even hold my hand until we were in an official boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. It was so respectful! When he would leave, I never wondered where we stood.
Once we were together, he let me snuggle on him as much as I wanted (within reason!). I am a very snuggly person, so he let me be myself and show him love through holding hands, laying my head on his chest, hugs, and kisses. We call each other sickening names… boo boo, schoopie… I think he called me baby turkey for awhile? It’s gross, I get it. But I LOVE it.
To all the single ladies out there… PLEASE allow the man to pursue you. That’s how we were created, and it is the best feeling to know that he wants YOU and is thinking of you. Don’t throw yourself at anyone but your hubby (which comes after he pursues you!).
3. The way he leads.
He challenges me in all ways; spritual, mental, physical, relational. He mentors a boys small group and they look up to him as a role model (as they should). But ultimately, he wants to point them back to Christ, not himself (even though he’s so cute! I mean…).
Don’t get me wrong, sometimes this part is hard. This is where the curse comes in. Genesis 3:16 says “..Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” It is meant that the men be the leader in the household, but because of sin, us ladies think we will do a better job. Not that we shouldn’t contribute or have opinions and voice them, but I’m no feminist. HOWEVER, this becomes a struggle for me at times when I try to control my husband. Ultimately, he doesn’t let me, but he values my input as much as his own, and I do not feel devalued or unappreciated.
4. His commitment.
When Ryan commits to something, he stays with it. HELLOOO he committed to me… not easy. But really, we met and married within a year, and the whole relationship was long distance. He committed to it anyway. **Once again, ladies… if a guy willl not committ, run far away. Guys… if a girl will not committ, run far away. Both you and the non commital one should be with someone he/she wants to commit to and it be reciprocated.**
Whether it be our church’s softball coach, his many new responsibilities at work, small groups, etc… he stays committed (even when I think he should quit… I’m so supportive!).
5. His thoughtfulness.
So yesterday when I got home, I had my “official” Panem I.D. If you don’t know what I’m talking about… you should. It’s Hunger Games, people. Anyway, yes… I ordered one of those I.D. cards (I’m in District 12, by the way..). He made fun of me for getting one. But you know what he did? He had a People magazine laying there next to my shiny card. The People magazine had an article in there about the actors from Hunger Games (the actress who plays Katniss is from Louisville… woo woo).
He gives me little surprises like this a lot. He knows how much I love thoughtful gifts over a gift that was given just because it is Christmas. He comes and hangs out with me and the little man at work, he goes to Pet Smart with me even when he knows I’ll beg him to get another kitty or a puppy when we go (it worked once…).
Basically, my man just rocks. He loves God… I never doubt that. He loves me. I never, ever doubt that. While I know he is just human and he cannot fulfill me, he does the absolute best he can to love me the way Christ loves the church. His love makes me want to be a better servant of Christ, wife, and friend.
What more could I need/want/ask for…?
He would say more hair, but eh.