Why Adopt?

I’m sure most of you are wondering why we are adopting. We have explained this in-depth to only a few people as our hearts have been pried open by God to lead us toward this step. We feel it is very important for others to know why we ARE doing this, and why we are NOT doing this, especially if they choose to support us.

I will attempt to answer some questions that I know some of you have, but are not asking…

Question:  Are we unable to have children of our “own”?

Answer:     We have no idea. We haven’t even tried to have children. We could very well have infertility problems that we do not know of, but that’s not why we are doing this.

Question:  Do we plan on having children of our “own”?

Answer:      Possibly, maybe. Of course, if I become pregnant, we will be joyful. However, that’s not something we are trying to do right now. Maybe we will just adopt all of our children. God knows! We  don’t yet…

Bottom line, we are NOT adopting because we can’t have children. Maybe we actually can’t have children, and in this case, we’d be a bit more prepared for it.

Let’s talk a little bit about why we ARE adopting…

  • There are estimated at over 200,000,000 orphans currently in the world. Of those 200 million, around 44 million live in Africa. Of those, an estimated 5 million live in Ethiopia. To put that into perspective, that is higher than the population of Kentucky.

I feel as though that reason is pretty self explanatory, but I like to explain myself, so let me explain some more 😉 While many of these orphans are not even in countries that allow intercountry (out of country) adoption, my heart still breaks for the many millions who ARE eligible, but remain in orphanages until they are “aged out” and living on the streets. Please do not take this the wrong way when I say this, but these statistics are almost enough to KEEP me from having my “own” children. There are plenty of children already out there. Why do I need to make more? So they look like me? So I can experience being pregnant?  With that being said, Ryan and I still intend to have children, if God wills, and I don’t want anyone to be afraid to tell me they are pregnant for fear of me yelling at them and telling them they should have adopted instead. God DID say to multiply and have children (thanks, Mom and Dad!), I just feel convicted of that at times, and I’m just being honest. Enough explaining! Next reason…

  • But when the fullness of the time had come, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, that we might receive the adoption as sons.Galatians 4:4-6

As believers in the one true God, WE are adopted. We are the sons and daughters of God. Not by birth, by adoption. When we are born into this world, we are children of Satan. When the Holy Spirit draws us to Him, we are adopted into God’s family. Satan is no longer our Father, God is.

For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.”

Romans 8:14-16

We leave that “family” completely and join God’s. Bottom line, adoption of orphans is an example of the Gospel. When orphans are adopted into a family, it becomes a living, breathing metaphor for how God adopts us into His family (except his example is pretty much perfect, and our attempt to reflect his example comes up short). I may not have earthly adopted parents, but I am, in fact, adopted. I want to return the favor, and hopefully, our children will become adopted into God’s family as well.

  • As disciples of Christ, we are called to look after orphans.

Now, this doesn’t mean everyone should, must, or will adopt. It does mean we should all have a heart for orphans; a heart for adoption. This pretty much ties back into the last reason (pretty “neat” how God makes all of his truths tie together, eh?) as well. We are adopted, so we should have a heart for adoption. Not only that, but God actually commands us to…

Learn to do good. Seek justice. Help the oppressed. Defend the cause of orphans. Fight for the rights of widows.

Isaiah 1:17

Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.

James 1:27

Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves; ensure justice for those being crushed. Yes, speak up for the poor and helpless, and see that they get justice.

Proverbs 31:8-9

I tell you the truth, when you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters, you were doing it to me!

Matthew 25:40

And lastly…

  • We want our home to be more representative of the world.

Despite what us Americans often think, there is more than just the US of A. Don’t take that the wrong way… I love living in America, and I thank God for being born here. However, I hope I would thank God for wherever I was born, because He made this whole earth, not just America. With that being said, we want our home to be more focused on the whole world, and not just the United States. Sure, you don’t have to adopt in order to do that. You can go on trips, missions trips, travel, etc.. but this is a way we’d like to go about that. We’d like to do all those others as well.

Well, I think that just about “sums” it up. Oh, speaking of quotes! Some of you probably caught on that I keep putting own in quotes. While I know people have the best intentions when using own in reference to biologically born children, we are going to do the best that we absolutely can in showing our children that they are our “own” children; biological or adopted.

I’m not sure if it’s possible for you to still have questions after all of this, but if you ever have any questions pertaining to why we are choosing to adopt (or anything else for that matter), do not hesitate!

Love love!

-The Tengi


Read about why we chose Ethiopia here.


2 thoughts on “Why Adopt?

  1. I am so fortunate to have been blessed with you my daughter. You are amazing! Continue to follow God’s will and direction. Your dad and I both looking forward to meeting and loving our little Tengi grandchild.

    Love to you and Ryan,

  2. I do have one more question, where have you been hiding that beautiful spirit all these years? You ARE amazing, Ryan is awesome & Azeb is blessed!! I love reading your updates! hugs!! The Haddox gang

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